I can't either. There's a part of me that sees the woman who doesn't get the reconstruction/augmentation as brave and noble, but I don't think a woman should feel guilty if she wishes to get it.
I remember looking down at my scars from surgeries once, and making a "that looks weird" comment, and my mother saying "Well, if it bothers you, you can get plastic surgery." I didn't want to do this, and in fact, now I find those scars pretty in a way. I can't, though, really think of myself rebuking another woman for not getting them altered/reduced/whatevered. Even if she wants "pretty" legs for suspect reasons, scarring is another case where I think it's all just too complex to boil down to just that. Being obviously scarred means, in a sense, being in a different body than the one you're used to. There's all sorts of ways that can mess with your head. Feeling unpretty in precisely the culturally problematic way is one of them... but only one.
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Date: 2004-12-15 09:52 pm (UTC)I remember looking down at my scars from surgeries once, and making a "that looks weird" comment, and my mother saying "Well, if it bothers you, you can get plastic surgery." I didn't want to do this, and in fact, now I find those scars pretty in a way. I can't, though, really think of myself rebuking another woman for not getting them altered/reduced/whatevered. Even if she wants "pretty" legs for suspect reasons, scarring is another case where I think it's all just too complex to boil down to just that. Being obviously scarred means, in a sense, being in a different body than the one you're used to. There's all sorts of ways that can mess with your head. Feeling unpretty in precisely the culturally problematic way is one of them... but only one.