OT for a sec - WHAT is going on with your icon? The text, I mean? ;)
Back on topic... Honestly, I think feminist arguments against BDSM are stretching it. You raised what I think is a useful criticism of feminism, that it can become dictatorial, proscribing preferences as unfeminist without examining the complexities behind them. Like the power thing in heterosex; you could assume all power exchange in sex is patriarchal ergo bad, but then you'd be using overly simplistic logic and actually ignoring big parts of the cultural context of BDSM.
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Back on topic... Honestly, I think feminist arguments against BDSM are stretching it. You raised what I think is a useful criticism of feminism, that it can become dictatorial, proscribing preferences as unfeminist without examining the complexities behind them. Like the power thing in heterosex; you could assume all power exchange in sex is patriarchal ergo bad, but then you'd be using overly simplistic logic and actually ignoring big parts of the cultural context of BDSM.