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living together = oppression?
Mar. 11th, 2004 04:29 pmFor those who haven't caught it, the most recent We Have Brains question is up. This week is about the balace of power in cohabiting relationships.
I'm particularly intrigued by the implications of different power dynamics for a straight pair vs. homosexual pair, and I wonder if there's a difference for poly families. How much does gender influence your relationship dynamic in the home? And how much is the gender imbalance in hetero pairs a result of the adoption of a certain mode as "normal"?
Not having a lot of experience of varied living arrangements, I can't answer that question. I attempted to answer from my own experience on my blog and am too lazy to copy it here today. In sum, I think the household sharing works out fine in our house because our parents had already struggled with it. But it could work in your house if you started with your eyes open and were willing to negotiate.
I'm particularly intrigued by the implications of different power dynamics for a straight pair vs. homosexual pair, and I wonder if there's a difference for poly families. How much does gender influence your relationship dynamic in the home? And how much is the gender imbalance in hetero pairs a result of the adoption of a certain mode as "normal"?
Not having a lot of experience of varied living arrangements, I can't answer that question. I attempted to answer from my own experience on my blog and am too lazy to copy it here today. In sum, I think the household sharing works out fine in our house because our parents had already struggled with it. But it could work in your house if you started with your eyes open and were willing to negotiate.