is there a secret?

[keryx]

You might not guess it if you didn't know me, but I am totally uptight about my tummy. It's all flappy and has stretchmarks, and I realize I wear midriff-baring costumes all the time, but I haven't managed to actually like it. Or my upper arms. I took up the whole clubbell thing in the first place because I hated my arms so much - and ironically, I am much stronger (yay!), but still not any happier with the appearance of my arms.

The best I've managed to achieve is just a sort of malicious indifference to these things, cause really, grousing over body parts is so not the person I'd like to be. But really, isn't there something - you know, cooler - I could do?

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you've probably seen this before

[firecat]

They're not stretch marks, they're tiger stripes

[sarahmichigan.livejournal.com]

I think the way a woman feels about her upper-arm jiggle is a pretty good marker of how she feels about her body overall. I know women fat and thin who hate their upper arms. I'm not crazy about mine, still don't love the belly, but I'm closer to loving it than the upper arms.

Unlike my attire from my early 20s, I now wear tank tops that show up the upper arms and just try to be accepting, if not actually body-positive, about them.

[thescissors.livejournal.com]

I know how you feel--those are the same parts I grouse about. I still require a pep talk before walking outdoors in short sleeves. I feel better about my belly now, though, when I remember the time my (then) boyfriend and I were lying in bed, his head on my belly, talking. I said something like "Meh, squashy belly," and, to my horror, he buried his face in it and said, "Sexy belly." Hee.

[we-are-pliable.livejournal.com]

Hi! lawlesslawyer recommended your journal to me. I'm also a feminist and a belly dancer, and I'm always interested in talking with folks about those and other things. Okay if I add you?

[peregrin8.livejournal.com]

Tattoos and/or navel piercing?

[keryx.livejournal.com]

Yeah, sure!

[keryx.livejournal.com]

Probably true. Ironically, I was probably at least just as if not more unhappy with my arms before I was ever particularly fat.

Re: you've probably seen this before

[keryx.livejournal.com]

Isn't that kinda like saying "I'm not fat; I'm fluffy"?

Re: you've probably seen this before

[firecat]

Point. I like the former but not the latter, and I don't know why.