patience

[keryx]

If the success or failure of this planet and of human beings depended on how I am or what I do - How would I be? What would I do? (Buckminster Fuller)

I said the other day that I am lucky to have people to try my patience in so many different ways. And it's true - being frustrated and stupid teaches you things. But gah, is it hard.

My peeps are having a big stupid text fight over something that is, in fact, big - but not stupid. They are all right, and I keep ending up angry anyhow.

I would like to take back everything I said - even though I, too, was right - and just all be different and right and patient. It's not that I want no opinions, but that I'd like to passionately defend all of them.

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I'm hiding.

[arovd.livejournal.com]

well crap - so much for hiding.

"You wouldnt do the we love black people thing because it would be insensitive to black people.

it's not insensitive if the people in question are asking to be loved. I want to be loved. I want to be in a troupe that embraces me. how is that insensitive?

Labels divide people by pointing out what is different about them, when all that should really matter is whats the same. You and I are fat, Tara and I are clumsy, Brett and I like to drum for bellydancers.

these are all still labels. and you know what else is the same about us? many of us are queer. why can't that be something we have in common, something that we have the same?

BTW, when I say queer, I don't mean gay - I mean QUEER. As in we question "normal" relationship models and behaviors. I think that queer goes beyond who's gay or bi or whatever and who isn't, and gets into how we (collectively) think about the world around us.

And I do think that most of us in the troupe see the world around us queerly - in a way that is not mainstream. I think you do too - I think you've just gotten caught up on the 'gay' label and how other people might percieve you or us, and forgotten that queer isn't gay. Maybe I'm wrong. but that's what I think. "