It all depends. It's still possible that the fantasy/crush (however painful) was what was what you needed at the time.
I went through a lot of this two years ago; I've always had to wrestle with the fact that for whatever reason, people do not ask me out. The obvious rejection issues are compounded by the fact that I at times am acutely sensitive to other people's emotions, which means I *know* when they are attracted to me. Nothing like getting flat-out turned down by someone you *know* is into you.
I had some flirtations and crushes, one of which was abruptly ended by the mere act of me asking them out (as far as I can tell he was just old enough to be weirded out by my forthrightness), another friend deciding "it wouldn't be right", a few craigslist postings (lots of crap responses but I found a fun date for a while), and then someone awesome just landed in my lap. Life is an adventure, even the painful bits.
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Date: 2009-01-14 09:55 pm (UTC)I went through a lot of this two years ago; I've always had to wrestle with the fact that for whatever reason, people do not ask me out. The obvious rejection issues are compounded by the fact that I at times am acutely sensitive to other people's emotions, which means I *know* when they are attracted to me. Nothing like getting flat-out turned down by someone you *know* is into you.
I had some flirtations and crushes, one of which was abruptly ended by the mere act of me asking them out (as far as I can tell he was just old enough to be weirded out by my forthrightness), another friend deciding "it wouldn't be right", a few craigslist postings (lots of crap responses but I found a fun date for a while), and then someone awesome just landed in my lap. Life is an adventure, even the painful bits.