those who were seen dancing

I'm not trying to argue against anything you said. In fact, I was more relating my willingness to defer to individual choice on other surgical body modifications to the stance that seems obvious to most folk on SRS. Reduced down to an absurdly simple level, it's about looking the way you feel inside, which is the same thing people think about WLS and plastic surgery. I contend that people feel that way because they place value (mostly as a result of existing a duality-loving culture) on being way X vs. Y - or in the case of gender, because the culture doesn't recognize anything between a male and female body, and very little between male and female gender. But ideally we would. So, looking "female" wouldn't mean anything about gender or identity, any more than looking "fat" would say anything about your other characteristics, and we would accept a lot of bodies (and genders) in between that defied definition by today's standards - bodies that could be completely okay as they are.

As I said, I'm feeling optimistic today.