dates 49-44
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keryxFor some reason, I started counting my dates backwards, as the number of dates remaining rather than labeling each person with a number. It's weird, and I like it.
I told my coach I wasn't ready to leap into the wilderness of asking out complete strangers, but would try a couple of people I already knew.
49. One of my dance peeps is a hottie and a smarty who I'd really like to get to know better, and I asked him to let me tag along to his karaoke thing awhile back but never actually did it. So. Dinner and karaoke. He said yes, though it was hard to schedule (and then I was sick! CURSES!).
48. I keep running into this guy at the gym, who I apparently have a crush on despite his conventional prettiness. I tossed out an invite for dinner while we were chatting. He said no. I had a nice workout. The rejection wasn't as devastating as I'd expected. It was much easier to deal with than the profoundly embarassing dorkiness of asking.
Both of these invites made me anxious enough that I just sorta mumbled out the question in the most casual tone I could muster, waited for an answer... and ran like hell. So scary.
47. This is totally cheating, but my lovely not-girlfriend wanted to be counted on the list. So I took her out for New Year's Eve. Of course I did want to spend the time with her, but I didn't technically ask, and it didn't make me at all nervous. We had fun.
46. An old friend of my ex moved to town nearly a year ago. I got his email address from another friend & invited him to a party at my place. The party was fun, and we caught up a little, without a lot of sparks of any kind. This was a wildly successful invitation, though; he and another guest connected like whoa, so I feel like this date bettered the world in a way. Dating is about connection, yes?
I started to think of this process as research. I'll take the risk of meeting these potentially awesome new people, and maybe connect them to people and things they'll like.
45. Facebook. Oh, Facebook, how I love you. I found this guy I'd had a little crush on from college and sent him a message explaining the whole 50-dates thing. Getting a yes response to that totally transparent question was well worth the time delay of asking electronically. It left me happy and optimistic for days.
We met up for DC touristy stuff and ended up spending 8 hours together. It was a good date. We're planning a second.
44. I've been flirting with this guy at work - who I do in fact work with, so I'm not sure the 100% transparent approach is a good idea. So, I ask him to lunch. Except, it turns out, I went a little too subtle and he didn't get it. Which means - $DEITY - I think I need to try again.
I thought I'd be able to ask a lot more people a lot faster, but going out with people takes more emotional energy than I remembered. I need breaks! But it's time to start another round of asking.
I told my coach I wasn't ready to leap into the wilderness of asking out complete strangers, but would try a couple of people I already knew.
49. One of my dance peeps is a hottie and a smarty who I'd really like to get to know better, and I asked him to let me tag along to his karaoke thing awhile back but never actually did it. So. Dinner and karaoke. He said yes, though it was hard to schedule (and then I was sick! CURSES!).
48. I keep running into this guy at the gym, who I apparently have a crush on despite his conventional prettiness. I tossed out an invite for dinner while we were chatting. He said no. I had a nice workout. The rejection wasn't as devastating as I'd expected. It was much easier to deal with than the profoundly embarassing dorkiness of asking.
Both of these invites made me anxious enough that I just sorta mumbled out the question in the most casual tone I could muster, waited for an answer... and ran like hell. So scary.
47. This is totally cheating, but my lovely not-girlfriend wanted to be counted on the list. So I took her out for New Year's Eve. Of course I did want to spend the time with her, but I didn't technically ask, and it didn't make me at all nervous. We had fun.
46. An old friend of my ex moved to town nearly a year ago. I got his email address from another friend & invited him to a party at my place. The party was fun, and we caught up a little, without a lot of sparks of any kind. This was a wildly successful invitation, though; he and another guest connected like whoa, so I feel like this date bettered the world in a way. Dating is about connection, yes?
I started to think of this process as research. I'll take the risk of meeting these potentially awesome new people, and maybe connect them to people and things they'll like.
45. Facebook. Oh, Facebook, how I love you. I found this guy I'd had a little crush on from college and sent him a message explaining the whole 50-dates thing. Getting a yes response to that totally transparent question was well worth the time delay of asking electronically. It left me happy and optimistic for days.
We met up for DC touristy stuff and ended up spending 8 hours together. It was a good date. We're planning a second.
44. I've been flirting with this guy at work - who I do in fact work with, so I'm not sure the 100% transparent approach is a good idea. So, I ask him to lunch. Except, it turns out, I went a little too subtle and he didn't get it. Which means - $DEITY - I think I need to try again.
I thought I'd be able to ask a lot more people a lot faster, but going out with people takes more emotional energy than I remembered. I need breaks! But it's time to start another round of asking.