i'm having a weird feminist week, i think.

[keryx]

There are times when I see gender issues everywhere. And there are times when I see most of those gender issues as incidental to something else.

This week seems to be the latter. I've written a bit on my blog lately about odd gender differences at the Olympics (Women's gymnastics? What's with the sixties leftover dance moves? Why are Frankie and Annette at the Olympics?) and the thing with the woman who got all famous by blogging about having sex with some guys in DC (Who cares? Isn't women seeing sex as just sex kind of a good thing?) and in both cases not been big on the Larger Cultural Context.

I have more questions than answers most of the time, anyhow. That's not a bad thing.

Comments

[missmeridian.livejournal.com]

i so agree re: married people's responsibility. how is this difficult to understand? gah!

[snidegrrl.livejournal.com]

I don't understand!

[missmeridian.livejournal.com]

i guess i'm just appalled by the middle-aged, gee, let's destroy my family and my kid's perception of me because i'm tired and bored and why the hell not if everyone else is doing it?

if you find yourself crushing on a married man (fer instance) you can A) say, too bad, whatever, dude is married; or B) think to yerself, well, clearly his marriage is falling apart, and that has nothing to do with me, and i like this guy, and just want something that isn't marriage and commitment but just a casual thing, and ooh maybe he'll pay my bills, that would be nice, so ok.

i don't know that i can really fault grrl B, although i would hope i turn out to be grrl A.

[snidegrrl.livejournal.com]

huh. i hope it doesn't make me an asshole that i can totally fault grrl B without hesitating. :(

[libskrat]

If it helps any, I don't think it makes you an asshole.

That, or we're both assholes, 'cuz I can totally fault grrl B too. Like it or not, there's a third person involved -- the guy's wife. Grrl B is utterly dissin' her.

[keryx.livejournal.com]

Whew, my whole image of CavLec is fundamentally altered... I never pictured you as a sayer of "dissin". ;)

See, I don't think anyone here is an asshole - not y'all and not hypothetical girl B. There is much ambiguity.

[libskrat]

Well, I just used the word that covers the case, yo.