i'm having a weird feminist week, i think.

[keryx]

There are times when I see gender issues everywhere. And there are times when I see most of those gender issues as incidental to something else.

This week seems to be the latter. I've written a bit on my blog lately about odd gender differences at the Olympics (Women's gymnastics? What's with the sixties leftover dance moves? Why are Frankie and Annette at the Olympics?) and the thing with the woman who got all famous by blogging about having sex with some guys in DC (Who cares? Isn't women seeing sex as just sex kind of a good thing?) and in both cases not been big on the Larger Cultural Context.

I have more questions than answers most of the time, anyhow. That's not a bad thing.

Comments

[keryx.livejournal.com]

The difference in our opinions is really only a matter of degree, though - I still think that not getting involved with someone who's already partnered is a bad idea. It's just that when the wronged partner looks for someone to blame, it should always be to the person they had an agreement with.

My views get really convoluted if a friendship is involved, because I tend to think close friendships constitute an even more unbreakable contract than a partnership. So, in that case, the friend who sleeps with your partner is much, much worse than the partner, though they share the blame.

[snidegrrl.livejournal.com]

Yes, I can certainly agree that it's impossible to make blanket statements of blame (you think I'd learn!) and that there are degrees in every situation. Degrees of blame, too. There's "man that was kinda sketchy" and then there's "holy crap dude, that's just wrong!" so it can be evaluated on a case by case basis. So my general statements can be taken with a grain of salt, although it does indicate that I probably come from a default of "both parties guilty until proven innocent".