what is attraction?
Mar. 27th, 2006 04:18 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
keryxWhat do you think attracts one person to another? Does it have (for good or evil) a connection to gender?
Really rather awhile ago, I told an author that I thought his paradigm [Women are attracted to power (in any form, I mean, I suppose intelligence could be conceived of as power) while men are attracted to beauty (in any form, which means ironically that intelligence could also be conceived of as beauty)] didn't apply very consistently to people. And was, further, basically bunk when you consider a broader concept of gender and attraction than woman + man.
He asked me to educate him about what kind of universal paradigm might be true for the queer/feminist worlds, and I never really got to it, because I don't have an answer. I'm not sure there is one paradigm. Ya know? But I tend towards relativism. Do you think there's a universal paradigm of attraction? What's yours? What are you attracted to, if you boil down most of your attractions to a word or two?
Really rather awhile ago, I told an author that I thought his paradigm [Women are attracted to power (in any form, I mean, I suppose intelligence could be conceived of as power) while men are attracted to beauty (in any form, which means ironically that intelligence could also be conceived of as beauty)] didn't apply very consistently to people. And was, further, basically bunk when you consider a broader concept of gender and attraction than woman + man.
He asked me to educate him about what kind of universal paradigm might be true for the queer/feminist worlds, and I never really got to it, because I don't have an answer. I'm not sure there is one paradigm. Ya know? But I tend towards relativism. Do you think there's a universal paradigm of attraction? What's yours? What are you attracted to, if you boil down most of your attractions to a word or two?
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Date: 2006-03-27 06:37 pm (UTC)just cause i have many friends who consider themselves to have been though gay divorce. i also think that if gays could get married their divorce rates would be just as high as hetero's. i think that many of my friends who are single now or out of a serious relashionship that lasted years would have gotten married if it was an option for them and then would have gotten divorced. i also think that the fact that gays cant reproduce within their relashionships without some kinda outside help has a huge impact on how long a relashionship lasts. i do not under any circumstances think that gays are better at picking partners then hetero's.
i know that i just blabbed on and on so sorry about that!