lifestyle blather

[keryx]

I've now reached the point where everyone knows about my "vegan during daylight" eating habits and I get (nicely) made fun of at work for them. Which is interesting. I get a lot of are you still doing that's. I think that's a symptom of our diet and instant gratification culture.

And I'm totally influenced by this. I've been following a regimen of daily exercise, including weight/circular strength training, and lower-calorie eating for about four months. As far as I can tell, I haven't lost any weight (I also haven't been weighed, so whatever). I certainly haven't seen any real appearance change. But my pants don't fit; I must have lost some girth around the waist. Skirts I can just buy a size smaller, but I can't find any pants that fit me. The first time this happened, I was perversely pleased - like "aha, I'm not even counting pounds, but I'm getting thinner"; now I'm just cranky about not being able to wear clothes. Why does it even matter?

Now I'm healthier, but I just don't feel any thinner (ergo more attractive); I get whiny and defeatist about this. Even though I know people don't just lose weight. Even though I do feel better most of the time. Actually, I feel fatter and less attractive a lot, because the exercise is finally resolving my warped image of my body so I see myself as being as fat as I am, not less fat. Or - I don't know, I just feel like I'm taking up space, and some embarrassing inner part of me thinks that makes me bad. Well, that's stupid. That's a stupid thought, no matter how grounded it is in "societal ideals". Body ideals are stupid.

Comments

[originalenid.livejournal.com]

You obviously have no friends that look even remotely like the woman in your icon. If you did maybe you would stop to consider her humanity, her right to have her body appreciated in a loving context.

You’ll probably pay no attention to this. You’ll probably write this off. But goddamn, you're helping to disenfranchise human beings.

[keryx.livejournal.com]

Veggiemama looks not unlike her icon, she's friends with me and I look not unlike her icon. We ARE those disenfranchised human beings, which is precisely why this whole stupid thing is so frustrating - that taking on a healthy lifestyle can accidentally result in all these questions about yourself that are in line with ideas about fat that you don't believe for other people.

I find it easy to say you're beautiful, for instance, or that veggiemama's beautiful, but not to say the same thing about myself. It craps. But it's not unusual for women, especially fat women, to think this way - even, for those of us fighting against it, in the backs of our minds.

[originalenid.livejournal.com]

Ahh, I see. Judging just from the substance of her post, it seems that it was being used for a chuckle.

I'm sorry I jumped to conclusions!

And yes, it's a very tough issue to sort out in one's head.

[veggiemama.livejournal.com]

Thanks keryx! I don't usually get riled up about internet things, but that comment REALLY pissed me off. Thanks for having my back, disenfranchised (LOL!) though it is.

[keryx.livejournal.com]

It was a good conversation. I mean, we all spaz sometimes when we don't have background info or see things in the context they're intended to be in. I know I do, at least. ;)

[veggiemama.livejournal.com]

I see that this has already been taken care of, but damn! *I* look like the woman in my icon. I love the icon because it's a fat woman who obviously thinks of herself as beautiful. I think her body in the icon IS "appreciated in a loving context," by me and by her. And screw YOU for being so rude without even knowing me.